Thursday, February 19, 2015

How Cooler Temperatures Can Also Cool Your Love Life

Your fingers and toes may not be the only things freezing this winter….your love life may be freezing too!

I must admit I never thought I would ever see temperatures in negative degrees in my lifetime.  This thought will be shattered in a matter of days as I watch the forecasts dip down past the single digits in the area where I live here in the Northeast.  It’s a sight for sore eyes as you watch people rushing to get indoors after running a few daily errands just so frostbite doesn’t catch up with them.  Meanwhile as we settle indoors from the freezing cold, we sit and watch the forecast for the other warm weather states like California and Florida where the day time high is well above freezing and start dreaming that we were living there!

Now for those of us who were born in cold weather climates, I’m here to say we don’t ever get used to it as some would think.  We just deal with it!  We’ve developed a certain level of resistance to it and resolve to work around it until spring and summer finally shows up.  I actually believe that’s why when I meet people who were born in colder climates, they appear to be much more resilient despite any obstacles they go through in life.  Perhaps the physiological effects of the temperature they were raised in hardens them and gives them a more protective shell to be able to withstand the challenges in life.      

From my observations and experiences in meeting people from across the country, when I meet people from warm weather climates, they appear friendlier, hospitable and interesting enough, warmer which is conducive to dating and finding love.  Whereas people from cold weather climates tend to be more reserved, less open and more critical in their approach towards life which is hardly a winning attitude in terms of having a successful love life.  Now please do not misunderstand me.  Of course, this is all relative and people have their own unique and individual personalities.  But I think there is something to be said about the two categories of people.

The Occupational Safety and Health Administration states that people subjected to cold environments are at the risk of cold stress.  It states that “most of the body's energy is used to keep the internal core temperature warm. Over time, the body will begin to shift blood flow from the extremities (hands, feet, arms, and legs) and outer skin to the core (chest and abdomen). This shift allows the exposed skin and the extremities to cool rapidly and increases the risk of frostbite and hypothermia.”  Yikes!  This may explain the attitudes of many who live in colder climates as opposed to those in warmer climates.  The physiological stress placed on their bodies probably also causes them mental stress in having to deal with loved ones as well.  In other words, who wants to be friendly when you’re freezing half to death!

According to, there’s been studies around the effects of the winter months and depression.  Researches use the term “seasonal affective disorder” to explain this phenomenon.  The verdict is still out on whether it is a real disorder but they do stay when research participants are exposed to brighter, warmer temperatures, they get better.  This may explain why we may feel like we want to hibernate in the wintertime and feel extremely flirtatious in the summertime!

Nevertheless, love shouldn’t be swayed by the temperature outdoors, unless your love life wasn’t strong after all.  Sure, it may have a cooling off period, especially when we’re stuck indoors for a long amount of time due to the snow or extremely frigid temperatures.  But this could also be a chance for us to rejuvenate ourselves and soothe our relationships with our partners.  Maybe mother nature is slowing us down so we can take care of ourselves and the only way she can do this is to cool us off every once in a while.  Soon the winter months are over and the spring and summer months begin bringing us the warmth and sunlight that we need.  Let’s just be careful not to complain about the heat then, okay?

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