Your fingers and toes may not
be the only things freezing this winter….your love life may be freezing too!
I must admit I
never thought I would ever see temperatures in negative degrees in my
lifetime. This thought will be shattered
in a matter of days as I watch the forecasts dip down past the single digits in
the area where I live here in the Northeast.
It’s a sight for sore eyes as you watch people rushing to get indoors
after running a few daily errands just so frostbite doesn’t catch up with
them. Meanwhile as we settle indoors
from the freezing cold, we sit and watch the forecast for the other warm
weather states like California and Florida where the day time high is well
above freezing and start dreaming that we were living there!
Now for those of us
who were born in cold weather climates, I’m here to say we don’t ever get used
to it as some would think. We just deal
with it! We’ve developed a certain level
of resistance to it and resolve to work around it until spring and summer
finally shows up. I actually believe
that’s why when I meet people who were born in colder climates, they appear to
be much more resilient despite any obstacles they go through in life. Perhaps the physiological effects of the
temperature they were raised in hardens them and gives them a more protective
shell to be able to withstand the challenges in life.
From my
observations and experiences in meeting people from across the country, when I
meet people from warm weather climates, they appear friendlier, hospitable and
interesting enough, warmer which is conducive to dating and finding love. Whereas people from cold weather climates
tend to be more reserved, less open and more critical in their approach towards
life which is hardly a winning attitude in terms of having a successful love
life. Now please do not misunderstand
me. Of course, this is all relative and
people have their own unique and individual personalities. But I think there is something to be said
about the two categories of people.
The Occupational
Safety and Health Administration states that people subjected to cold
environments are at the risk of cold stress.
It states that “most of the body's energy is
used to keep the internal core temperature warm. Over time, the body will begin
to shift blood flow from the extremities (hands, feet, arms, and legs) and
outer skin to the core (chest and abdomen). This shift allows the exposed skin
and the extremities to cool rapidly and increases the risk of frostbite and
hypothermia.” Yikes!
This may explain the attitudes of many who live in colder climates as
opposed to those in warmer climates. The
physiological stress placed on their bodies probably also causes them mental
stress in having to deal with loved ones as well. In other words, who wants to be friendly when
you’re freezing half to death!
According
to webmd.com, there’s been studies around the effects of the winter months and
depression. Researches use the term “seasonal
affective disorder” to explain this phenomenon.
The verdict is still out on whether it is a real disorder but they do
stay when research participants are exposed to brighter, warmer temperatures, they
get better. This may explain why we may
feel like we want to hibernate in the wintertime and feel extremely flirtatious
in the summertime!
Nevertheless,
love shouldn’t be swayed by the temperature outdoors, unless your love life
wasn’t strong after all. Sure, it may
have a cooling off period, especially when we’re stuck indoors for a long
amount of time due to the snow or extremely frigid temperatures. But this could also be a chance for us to
rejuvenate ourselves and soothe our relationships with our partners. Maybe mother nature is slowing us down so we
can take care of ourselves and the only way she can do this is to cool us off
every once in a while. Soon the winter
months are over and the spring and summer months begin bringing us the warmth and
sunlight that we need. Let’s just be
careful not to complain about the heat then, okay?
Thanks for reading!
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