Flirting not your thing…try
this to get his attention!
I’ll admit I’m a
hopeless romantic but I’ve never thought flirting was one of my core
strengths. I have girlfriends that could
attract the opposite sex like bees to honey.
Just give them a minute and a good looking guy and they’re off and
running. I laugh because I don’t even
think it takes that long! I used to
dread going out with them because I knew if I spotted a guy I liked they would
take him first!
The art of flirting
is such a lost art. I think it’s because
most of us fear rejection. If we take
the time to flirt with someone and they reject us, it hurts our pride and
ego. We feel unwanted and unloved. Eventually we resolve to never do it again or
at least not until the other person likes us first. It’s our way of preventing the pain of
Most people think flirting
is looking at a person until they succumb to your creepy stare. But that will drive the person away faster
than anything. Other people think that
flirting is about the flip of your hair and while this is flirty, it’s not the
end all! There are other ways to get his
attention without even trying.
Flirting can be so
much fun even when it isn’t one of your strengths. I’ve listed some of my favorite old school
ways to flirt that are less obvious and won’t cost you anything other than your
time and patience with the process.
Clothes and accessories – Most people don’t realize that your
clothes speak before you do! Your
clothes say a lot about you when you enter the room. When you feel good, you dress the part. When you don’t feel good, you don’t dress the
part hoping no one will notice you.
Clothes are like our secret silent language making it a great way to
flirt with that special someone without saying a word to them. I recommend soft colors that signal romance
and fitted clothing that allows him to admire your curves. If clothes are the first thing he sees from
you, why not make a great first impression!
Tone of voice – Voice is the most underrated way of
flirting. Have you ever heard a woman
who has either a high pitched child-like voice or a woman with a super sulky
voice that screams of seduction? There
is something about their voice that drives men wild. Unless you are a professional speaker, singer
or other professional who uses their voice a lot, you are probably not giving
your voice the tender loving care that it needs. But this is such a simple and cost-free way
to flirt with the man of your dreams.
It’s certainly worth it to train your voice to speak in a super sexy
Friendliness – This is another underrated way to
flirt. Think about all the guys who were
friendly and open to you when you may have been a bit lost or shy. The friendlier they were to you, the more you
thought about it and felt good after meeting them. This has a huge magnifying effect on men who
envision their future wife being an open and friendly person not just to him
but also to others around him as well.
You will be someone they can’t wait to take home to momma!
Displaying your kindness and generosity – I meet so many men who seem to be
magnetized by kind and generous women.
Men think if a woman is kind and generous to them, she’ll also be kind
and generous to their family as well.
And this doesn’t mean she’s a doormat but that she has a kind heart and is
kind and generous to everyone she meets which is incredibly sexy to men.
Being Miss Congeniality – I’m reminded of this flirty technique
with my sweetheart who loves women who epitomize “Miss Congeniality”. He says there is nothing sexier and flirty
than a woman who loves life. I agree
with him. I love to be around people who
are full of life. They attract all types
of people. And don’t worry if you’re not
the “Miss Congeniality” type. As long as
you are loving and living life to the fullest extent, men will be at your feet
in no time.
Hopefully, I’ve helped those of you who don’t
claim to be super flirty but would like to still be able to attract men. Don’t get me wrong, eye contact is still probably
the number one way to flirt but my purpose in writing this article is for those
of you who may be a little shy with using such techniques as they are more
obvious to the person to whom you are flirting.
From your clothes, tone of voice, friendliness, kindness and generosity,
to being “Miss Congeniality”, these are fun and much more natural ways to get
his attention. And if you don’t get his
attention, there’s probably a few others whose attention you did get from using
Thanks for reading!
For more helpful dating tips,
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