Classic love stories…sappy
love songs…you know who you are….come on in…we’re here for you!
I love bright
dainty dresses, wear heels when I can and jewelry is a must wherever I go. I’ve watched “Pride and Prejudice” a dozen
times, “Gone with the Wind” even more and “Love Jones” was my national
anthem. I sing lots of sappy love songs
and my heart melts for people who are poetic.
I follow the planets and the stars in the sky for love religiously and
believe in a higher power to bring two people who are “meant to be” into
existence. Hi…they call me love and I’m
a hopeless romantic.
So what defines hopeless romantics? You
know there’s a hopeful, wistful quality about these people that makes them both
alluring and attractive to others. They
believe in the impossible and chase their romantic ideals with fervor. There’s a spiritual quality to them. They may even look “doe-eyed” at times. It’s just their view of the world through
rosy colored glasses.
Their spiritual
qualities are what keeps them looking up and having hope that love is out there
somewhere waiting for them. That perfect
partner exists and they won’t stop until they find him. Through their own viewpoint, the world is
perfect and love makes us whole. Falling
in love is divine, even mystical. The “knight
in shining armor” comes to their rescue and rides off into the sunset. There’s this deep, pure longing to bond with
another soul in an unknown territory that inspires them.
Their naivety makes
us all want to protect them from the cruel world. Remember Marilyn Monroe had this naïve
quality to her which made her so attractive.
Her innocence and romantic ideals attracted both men and women. Even in her clumsiness (picture her in the
infamous white dress) and off screen affairs, the world still embraced her as
the hopeless romantic that she was both on and off screen.
But reality can
deal a harsh blow. It’s like the “pot of
gold” they saw at the end of the rainbow suddenly moved. Their “perfect” partner isn’t quite what they
had envisioned anymore. They gave their
all to the relationship but got less than what was given. They have to accept the ugly realities of a
relationship. Their partner is not quite
so “perfect” and never was “perfect”.
Their illusion of the ideal relationship has ended.
But is being a hopeless romantic such a bad
thing? Absolutely not! But we as hopeless romantics must accept the
reality of relationships. When two
people come together, it is an opportunity for them to grow as individuals
through that partnership. Maybe that
relationship was meant for you to heal a part of you that had been deeply hurt
and buried. We see ourselves through the
eyes of other people. We mirror other
people what we see in ourselves.
As hopeless
romantics, we must remember that people have their shortcomings. And no one person can fulfill you entirely so
you must find other ways that will help you to channel your energy. One way I find helpful is to find creative
outlets to express your abilities. Arts
and entertainment are a great way to channel our talents and abilities so that
we’re not focusing too much on one individual person and perhaps their flaws but
rather on positive things like sharing our own unique talents with the world. It takes the pressure off of the relationship
and on to something more fulfilling. Lots
of poets, singers, and writers use creative arts as a way to escape the harsh
realities of the world but in a more meaningful way.
You may also want
to engage in philanthropic activities including charities and fundraisers that
help you to direct your energy to worthwhile causes. Again, this takes a lot of pressure and focus
off of your partner allowing your relationship to breathe and grow while you focus
on another part of you that is yearning to be pleased. I think you’ll find these activities to be
both spiritually satisfying and rewarding as you are helping others with your
special gifts.
In short, the world
needs our hopeless romantic qualities.
Where would they be without us?
We make the world a better, richer and more vibrant place. We bring arts, poetry, compassion and all
things mystical and romantic into existence.
We help people escape their everyday world to enter a world full of joy
and happiness. The lesson here is that
you’re not wrong for being a hopeless romantic but you must learn to use your
energy in more creative ways so you can then enjoy your relationships without
any added stress. Not only will you be
more fulfilled individually but your relationships will be that much more
pleasant.
Thanks for reading!
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