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I love bright dainty dresses, wear heels when I can and jewelry is a must wherever I go. I’ve watched “Pride and Prejudice” a dozen times, “Gone with the Wind” even more and “Love Jones” was my national anthem. I sing lots of sappy love songs and my heart melts for people who are poetic. I follow the planets and the stars in the sky for love religiously and believe in a higher power to bring two people who are “meant to be” into existence. Hi…they call me love and I’m a hopeless romantic.
So what defines hopeless romantics? You know there’s a hopeful, wistful quality about these people that makes them both alluring and attractive to others. They believe in the impossible and chase their romantic ideals with fervor. There’s a spiritual quality to them. They may even look “doe-eyed” at times. It’s just their view of the world through rosy colored glasses.
Their spiritual qualities are what keeps them looking up and having hope that love is out there somewhere waiting for them. That perfect partner exists and they won’t stop until they find him. Through their own viewpoint, the world is perfect and love makes us whole. Falling in love is divine, even mystical. The “knight in shining armor” comes to their rescue and rides off into the sunset. There’s this deep, pure longing to bond with another soul in an unknown territory that inspires them.
Their naivety makes us all want to protect them from the cruel world. Remember Marilyn Monroe had this naïve quality to her which made her so attractive. Her innocence and romantic ideals attracted both men and women. Even in her clumsiness (picture her in the infamous white dress) and off screen affairs, the world still embraced her as the hopeless romantic that she was both on and off screen.
But reality can deal a harsh blow. It’s like the “pot of gold” they saw at the end of the rainbow suddenly moved. Their “perfect” partner isn’t quite what they had envisioned anymore. They gave their all to the relationship but got less than what was given. They have to accept the ugly realities of a relationship. Their partner is not quite so “perfect” and never was “perfect”. Their illusion of the ideal relationship has ended.
But is being a hopeless romantic such a bad thing? Absolutely not! But we as hopeless romantics must accept the reality of relationships. When two people come together, it is an opportunity for them to grow as individuals through that partnership. Maybe that relationship was meant for you to heal a part of you that had been deeply hurt and buried. We see ourselves through the eyes of other people. We mirror other people what we see in ourselves.
As hopeless romantics, we must remember that people have their shortcomings. And no one person can fulfill you entirely so you must find other ways that will help you to channel your energy. One way I find helpful is to find creative outlets to express your abilities. Arts and entertainment are a great way to channel our talents and abilities so that we’re not focusing too much on one individual person and perhaps their flaws but rather on positive things like sharing our own unique talents with the world. It takes the pressure off of the relationship and on to something more fulfilling. Lots of poets, singers, and writers use creative arts as a way to escape the harsh realities of the world but in a more meaningful way.
You may also want to engage in philanthropic activities including charities and fundraisers that help you to direct your energy to worthwhile causes. Again, this takes a lot of pressure and focus off of your partner allowing your relationship to breathe and grow while you focus on another part of you that is yearning to be pleased. I think you’ll find these activities to be both spiritually satisfying and rewarding as you are helping others with your special gifts.
In short, the world needs our hopeless romantic qualities. Where would they be without us? We make the world a better, richer and more vibrant place. We bring arts, poetry, compassion and all things mystical and romantic into existence. We help people escape their everyday world to enter a world full of joy and happiness. The lesson here is that you’re not wrong for being a hopeless romantic but you must learn to use your energy in more creative ways so you can then enjoy your relationships without any added stress. Not only will you be more fulfilled individually but your relationships will be that much more pleasant.
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