Are You In A Dead-End Relationship…Read
This!
You no longer eat
dinner together. Outings with other
couples are now more stressful than ever trying to keep up with the façade of
being a happy couple. Your significant
other doesn’t call anymore to see how you’re doing during the day nor wonder
where you are at night. Your family
knows something’s wrong during the holidays whenever you show up at family
events and functions alone. You’re really
tired of lying to people and more importantly, to yourself. You know you need to end it but just don’t
have the strength to do it.
Most of us have
been in at least one dead-end relationship in our lives. If we can be honest with ourselves, we stayed
in it either for the sake of the kids, for the convenience of someone to help us
pay the bills or to keep up with the pressure of society to say that we belong
to someone. The relationship may have
started off great but somewhere along the way we went in different directions. Our intentions were good for the relationship
but life has taken us along different paths.
If this sounds like
you, please consider the following reasons why it may finally be time to let go
of that relationship.
Below are my top 5
reasons to let go.
1.
Your heart isn’t in it anymore – Your feelings have changed towards him or
her. You still care very deeply for the
person but are not in love with the person anymore. You know that whatever has happened in that
relationship was for the best and it made you a stronger person. You’ve tried over and over to make it work
with no luck. Maybe you’ve even met
someone else who you feel is more compatible to you and are struggling to tell
your partner that it is over. Either
way, you know your heart isn’t in it and you’ll need to let go.
2.
Lack of trust – There’s no level of trust between you and
your partner. You check their phone
every time it rings to see who has called or texted them. You’ve smelled their clothes, checked for
lipstick and probably even their bank accounts to see if they’re being faithful
to you. But is this really how you want
to live? If you have no trust for the
person and feel the need to spy on them every second, this will drive you crazy….which
leads us to the next point!
3.
Your health is starting to deteriorate – This is by far the most revealing when
you are in a dead-end relationship. You
begin to lose your good health. Health
symptoms you’ve never had before suddenly come up. You may become more neurotic or start to have
high anxiety over little things. You just
don’t feel safe in that relationship anymore.
I’ve even seen some people go through extremes including losing
excessive weight or gaining excessive weight to hide the emotional baggage of
the relationship. But is your health
really worth it? Is a relationship worth
ruining your health when you have so much life in which to live? This is an especially critical question when
you have kids who deserve for you to live.
4.
It’s a waste of time – Over the years in my experience as a
dating coach, I’ve seen my clients waste countless amounts of time over someone
who either weren’t very interested in them or who could hardly care less about
them. Most of them had this idealized
view that if somehow they could make it work with the person, everything would
be okay. It never worked out that
way. Instead, the person they wanted had
already moved on with their lives, while they were left with wasted years of
time spending it wanting them…..which leads me to my last point.
5.
Someone better is out there for you – The time that you spend not letting go of
someone not right for you could be better spent on someone who IS right for you. There could be other people out there who
would be much better suited for you but they can’t come into your life while you’re
still in that dead-end relationship. While
you’re being weighed down by all the bags in this relationship, someone else
that’s better for you could be walking right past you. Please don’t miss out on your next opportunity. Several years from now could be too late.
Learning how to let
go of someone who means a lot to you is one of the hardest things you’ll ever
have to do in life. There’s no shortcuts
or ways around it. It takes a lot out of
you mentally, physically and emotionally.
But sometimes we have to do what’s best for our lives. We go through life to learn and grow from our
experiences. I like to think that each
relationship and experience I’ve been in is a stepping stone to another. And maybe this relationship was necessary to
get you prepared for a better one. It’s certainly
not that easy to let go but certainly necessary to move us further along in our
paths.
Good Luck!
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