Have you avoided looking for love
in the gym….you may want to reconsider!
As a “veteran” member
in multiple gyms over the span of my lifetime, I have seen and heard it
all. I have seen people come and go in
the gym. Most of us veterans know that
the month of January is when all the new people come in hoping for a solution
to their weight loss goals. And I would
say somewhere between the 15th and the 31st of January is
usually when they realize losing weight is not quite so easy as those
infomercials selling fat loss would have you to believe. But what if those same new members met someone
special in their local gym. I can almost
bet you they would not only stay as active members but would also lose their
desired weight as well.
In the past, I must
admit I was very against meeting someone in the gym until I began fitness consulting
services for my own business and started spending more and more of my time
there. While training in the gym, I started
meeting lots of nice people and became very acquainted with them. But what really changed my mind is the
community connection you get in local gyms that cannot be replaced online. People in local gyms all seem to root for the
same teams, share the same community struggles and most importantly, get to
know one another far better than dating some unknown person online. This seems to be a much better way to meet
someone since the person you meet in your local gym will more than likely live
near you. What more could you ask for in
convenience!
There’s also more
singles in the gym! Most of the married
people that I know, particularly the ones with kids, do not have the time to
spend in the gym and will generally purchase at home gym equipment to maximize
their time with their family. On the
other hand, singles have more time to dedicate to the gym and may spend
countless hours there. This is really good
news if you’re single because it gives you a plethora of options to choose from
in a mate. And don’t forget most of the
singles there tend to be in healthy shape too!
A huge plus in my book!
In general, meeting
your mate in the gym has many other benefits including having a “work out buddy”
to cheer you on and encourage you through the roller coaster ride of losing
weight. From what I’ve seen in many gym newcomers,
the ones who have partners or friends to work out with, maintain their goals
far better than those who work out alone.
Besides, having your own “spotter” doesn’t hurt either!
So how does this
process work you say? Well, first you
need to really work out! Seriously! Most of us veterans can spot the newbies very
quickly because 1) they’re too scared to lift weights and 2) they look confused
on the machines! It’s quite alright
though because most of us were new to the gym at one point in time and will
appreciate your effort in being there.
However, to gain someone’s interest, you’ll need to look the part. Please allow me to explain further.
If you look like
you’re only going to the gym to meet your husband or wife, you’ll be identified
immediately! As I said before, most of
the active members know the ones who are there to really work out and those who
are there to put on a show. The members
who are truly there to work out are actually working out and don’t have hours
to chat as if they’re in a club. Your
best bet is to have a purpose for being there and stick to it.
So to get you
started on your fitness “love” journey, I have listed a few tips to help you!
1. Dress
The Part – If you’ve been
out of the gym since the late 80’s then you’re probably in need of a wardrobe
update. And of course, if you’re just
out of college where wearing a dirty t-shirt and sweatpants were the norm,
think again! Remember, first impressions
count, especially when you’re single. If
you want to truly impress that special someone, spend a little extra money on
quality work out attire. It doesn’t have
to be glamorous nor necessarily “En Vogue”, but it should fit you well and have
a sense of your own taste and style attached to it.
2. Establish
Your Weight Loss Goals – Have
a goal that you want to accomplish in the gym.
Most gym-goers have specific goals they want to hit including losing
weight for that special date, school reunions, looking good in that bikini, etc. Establishing a goal upfront will give you
more purpose and will let others know you are not just there to flirt but also
to improve yourself as well.
3. Hire
a trainer to help you work out – If you’re new to the gym, hiring a trainer is a great to help you get
started. They’ll show you various
equipment and fitness techniques you can use to hit your goals. While you’re working out with the trainer,
this can be a great way to get to know others in the gym with similar goals as
well.
4. Engage
In Fun Group Co-ed Activities – If you’re going to be consistent in the gym, you’ll need a few
incentives and having fun is one of them.
The more fun you have with your work out, the more you’ll stick to the
plan. Local gyms have made enormous
strides in ensuring their members have access to the best group fitness
instructors and the best group training programs to help their members lose
weight. From group cycling to group
yoga, the group classes range from low intensity to high intensity based on your
level of fitness. And more importantly,
you’re having fun with others and that is enough to make anyone fall in love!
5. Be
Friendly And Welcoming To Everyone – The best way to meet people is by being open and friendly to them. Now some people in the gym take their workouts
much too seriously but maybe you can be the one to help them lighten up! These tend to be your neighbors and community
leaders all in one place. What better
way to meet them than in your local gym.
Besides, you never know which one of them could be your soulmate!
In short, there are no shortage of singles in
the gym. If you’ve tried online dating
or dating in bars and clubs, this may be your next best option. It’s safe, convenient and can be a positive
experience for you. There are many
benefits to meeting your mate in the gym including sharing the same values/goals
and a sense of a community connection as well.
Now I’m certainly not saying it’s a guarantee that you’ll meet “the one”
there but it’s certainly worth a try! So
the next time you pass the gym on your way home, stop in and look around. Your special guy or girl just may be there.
Thanks for reading!
For more helpful dating tips,
please check out my blog at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com
or you may inquire about my life/relationship coaching/fitness consulting
services at www.liveloveaspire.com.
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