Is the length of your hair keeping you
single?
Who could ever
forget the actress Keri Russell (aka Felicity) and those lovely, long curly tresses
as she played a “doey-eyed” freshman in college? People didn’t just fall in love with her child-like
innocence about love all while balancing the transition between leaving home
and finding herself. They fell in love with
her hair. Sure, we made the best of the new Felicity
when she made the bold move of chopping it all off but just like her hair,
viewers made a move of their own. They stopped
watching. Yikes!
Well, it’s safe to
say Hollywood has learned from this cautionary tale. I heard soon after this episode played out in
real life they started writing contracts to actors and actresses which included
how they should treat their hair. But I’m
sure both actors and especially actresses already knew the deal. Your hair is an asset. Even Nicole Kidman, who was featured on a
Chanel No. 5 commercial with her golden tresses strolling down the red carpet, has
yet to cut all her hair off as she knows how important it is to her career.
No offense to the
feminists who burned their bra so we as women could be “free” but we as women
know intrinsically that hair helps us score a few brownie points with the
guys. Even a “plain Jane” can be
considered beautiful if she knows the right shampoo and conditioner to add
volume and/or length to her hair mane.
Men have consistently voted hair as one of the top physical qualities they
look for in a woman and I don’t see that changing anytime soon.
Why do men love
long hair? Aren’t we living in the millennium? Well, yes but some things remain the
same. Men still have the image of the
sexual goddess in the bedroom with her hair all disheveled after sex. They still have the image of being able to
pull on it or play with it, even if this simply isn’t true. And for some of us, we are certainly not
trying to have someone play in our hair once we just returned home from a visit
to the hair stylist!
Below I’ve listed a
few questions I get from my clients and tips I’ve offered to them regarding
their hair:
1.
What should be my hair length? – Typically, I usually advise clients to
grow their hair at least shoulder or neck length, if not longer. The longer the better when you’re trying to
attract men. There’s a lot of styles you
can wear from that length so you can switch it up occasionally if you get bored
with one style. There’s also hair pieces
and extensions you can wear until your hair grows. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
2.
What should I do about ethnic hair? - As an African American woman myself, I’ve
had my hair curly, straightened, and even braided but I don’t receive nearly as
much attention as I receive when it is long and straight. Sure, guys think I’m cute when it’s curly but
the courtship tends to end right there.
Although, I’ll admit I’ve seen some women with big, beautiful Afros that
could put us long, hair sisters to shame.
3.
Should older women wear their hair long? – Absolutely! Men are men regardless of their age. Older men still view women from the same eye
with the exception that they are now looking for other, deeper qualities in a
woman along with great hair. Throw out
the notion that you need to cut your hair once you are of a certain age. It’s yesterday’s news! Just make sure your hair is long and
healthy. As we grow older, our hairlines
may start to thin and even recede at the crown of our head. If you have to make a choice between length
and volume, go for a classic style with a little body to complete the look.
4.
Does the color of your hair matter? – Yes!
My hairstylist wears some amazing colors everything from auburn to a
bright, golden blonde in her hair. However,
everyone cannot wear those colors, including me! I would check with a hairstylist who will be
able to advise you on a great color for your hair. However, I would stay away from unusual hair
colors like purple or orange. You want
to attract men, not scare them away! And
if you are a mature woman of a certain age who has grey hair, don’t be afraid
to wear it naturally. I’ve seen some
women who incorporate their grey hair right into their hair style and it looks
wonderful. Whereas others try to hide
their grey, they embrace it!
So is the length of
your hair keeping you single? Well,
maybe. A “plain Jane” would certainly
garner much more attention if she decided to add to the length of it. And a woman over 30 who has no marriage
proposals may suddenly become popular in the marriage arena once she decides to
“let down her hair”. Listen, I didn’t
make the rules. I just work with
them. If hair is what men like on us,
why not let them have their way. I like
to make love, not war! It’s a small
price to pay for all the work they’ll have to do to keep us!
Good Luck!
For more helpful dating tips,
please check out my website at www.liveloveaspire.blogspot.com
or you may inquire about my dating/relationship coaching services at www.liveloveaspire.com.
If you happen to live in the
Baltimore-DC metro area, please do inquire about my upcoming workshops. The next workshop series will be held on Sept
13th in Columbia, Maryland.
If interested, please email us at info@liveloveaspire.com.
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