So I just recently signed on to work as a “Dear Abby” where
I help to answer relationship questions for people by request. It’s been quite busy these days with the
holidays approaching because who doesn’t want love for the holidays. Well, I really enjoy this job because I like
helping people achieve their dreams of having a happy healthy
relationship. Although I’ll admit at
times, it can feel like I’m answering the same questions over and over
again. And they’re mainly around women
not having any control in their relationships.
Just the other day I was talking to one of my best girlfriends
and she mentioned she had a new guy in her life. She seemed fairly happy with him and that
everything seemed to be going okay. But
then she mentioned he lives in another state and that she would go to see him
often. I thought to myself, “Uh Oh!” I’m sure she noticed the hesitation in my
voice so she re-assured me that it was fine because he’s been so busy with all
of his work. I was like….okay? And you’re not busy with your work?
I simply made a suggestion that she gets him to come down
and see her at least periodically rather than this being so lopsided. Well, my girlfriend has her pride and as
women sometimes we don’t like receiving help when it comes to our love
lives. Still, I tried to push her into
not going to see him quite so often but I know this will fall on deaf ears.
I am also a landlord (yes, I have many jobs!) and one of my
tenants just got a new “friend” (in her own words). Once in a while, I check in on her to make
sure she’s okay, only to find her “friend” laid up on the couch chilling. In my mind, I’m thinking isn’t there something
he could be doing for you besides eating up all your food. But I digress. It’s really none of my business. So I carry on watching her give her all to
him and receiving nothing in return. She
even takes out the trash while he plays video games!!
I’m just so sad to see women give so much to men with little
to nothing in return. It continues to
sadden me despite the many years I’ve been doing this thing. I keep hoping one day women will take their
power back and reclaim their rightful place on the throne.
It does make me more appreciative of my own sweetheart for
the wonderful things he does for me.
When we first met, I cancelled on him several times before I said yes to
him because I was so busy. And guess
what? He re-arranged his own schedule
just to be near me. I don’t mention this
to brag but to explain why it is so important that women carry themselves as
Queens. You see, men don’t value the
things they don’t work hard for…which is why we have to keep them on their toes. Besides, do you want to be the one to get
down on one knee? Case closed…
The more a woman gives her power over to a man, the more he
takes it and runs. It’s not their
fault. They like easy stuff. The easier the better for them. The relationship starts out really nice. Boy meets girl. Boy asks girl out on a date. Date goes well and then boy asks her out the
next day…”spontaneously”. Girl says yes
then boy asks girl to “come over” the next day….girl then goes and abandons all
of her plans for fear of not getting another date…. girl starts complaining boy
doesn’t take her out anymore….but boy is fine with this and doesn’t know what
her problem is…girl hits breaking point…and breaks up with boy….boy still
scratching his head because he thought everything was going well…..the end!
And the cycle continues….
That’s why we ladies need structure…a guidepost for dating….if
you haven’t read the Rules, I suggest you pick up a copy today!
Let’s make 2017 the year of great relationships!
Have a safe and happy holiday season!
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