Can blissfully happy couples rub off of you?....let’s see…
If you’ve ever watched happy couples, then you’ll know how
infectious it is to be seen. There is
just this blissful joy and belonging that the couple shares that makes us all
stop and stare at them. I believe it’s
their love and happiness that we all wish we could have in our lives. And since my job causes me to be a woman of
many hats including professional coach and trainer, I have the luxury of being
around lots of people including these blissfully happy couples, and I can tell
you that just by virtue of being around them, you feel like you can achieve the
same dream of being in this blissful state of happiness.
I laugh when I think of this but I believe everyone needs a “role
model couple” to look up to for their own relationship. This isn’t necessarily about comparisons but
it is about being able to determine what constitutes a good relationship and
what does not constitute one. There’s
something different about couples that are on the right track or walking
together that makes them stand out from the rest and consequently keeps them
together forever and ever. They have a
wealth of knowledge from years of experience that other couples and singles
just don’t have or have gained in their lives.
For instance, there’s a way these couples interact with each
other. They don’t just text each other –
they actually call each other to make sure the other one is okay. How do you settle disputes? They allow the other person to voice their
opinion and are mindful not to disrespect each other. It’s the way they hold hands whenever
possible to show a quiet type of affection towards each other. When there are kids involved, they respect
each other’s authority and not allow the kids to undermine them. There is a general sense of trust towards
each other and they respect each other’s boundaries accordingly. These are all great things for singles to
learn in trying to find their own respective mates.
In other words, as a single person, you need to know what “good”
looks like in a relationship. When you’re
surrounded by other singles, you don’t necessarily learn that except through
trial and error. If you take the time to
surround yourself with strong happy couples, then their countless displays of
love and affection towards each other will eventually rub off on you. More often than not, singles only surround
themselves with other singles and regurgitate the same information and
sometimes keeping them single rather than hearing from happy couples of how
they’ve been able to stay together.
But you may say, I don’t know any happy couples! I’m sure there are a few in your family, your
neighborhood, at work, school…etc…etc…that you can observe and watch to learn
what constitutes a great relationship.
And by the way, it’s not about imitating their relationship but creating
your own great relationship by finding someone who is at least respectful and
loving towards you as your foundation.
These happy couples are never really highlighted in our
society because most of them live under the spotlight and rightfully so! They don’t necessarily want or need the
spotlight – just a happy home is their dream.
But we as singles can certainly learn a thing or two from them as we
create our own little happy homes. And
who knows, maybe someday we can pay it forward by helping another young couple by
being great role models to them as well!
Good luck!
Thanks for reading!
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