Monday, July 6, 2015

Why Being Average Can Cost You!

You give yourself kudos for going out on one date….and when the date doesn’t work out….you’re done with dating for life!

I’ll admit this article does not contain any gimmicky titles, complicated jargon or imaginative stories-just a little inspiration to help you get through the rest of the year.  Sometimes all you really need is a little push in the right direction to get back to this journey we call life.  The challenges in life come at us with full speed so we all could use a cheerleader in our corner to let us know everything we pray for and dream about is going to show up in our lives.

If most of us are really honest with ourselves, we write down our goals at the start of the year, get really pumped about what we are going to do to accomplish our goals and somewhere between March and June, we somehow find other things that take priority over what we said we wanted at the beginning of the year.  For example, do you really want a husband or wife?  Do you really want a promotion at your job or the clients you say you want?  Is your health really that important to you?  I could go on and on but I’m sure you get the point.  We write our goals down with fervor and passion and then abandon them as soon as the going gets rough and we figure out how hard it is to achieve what we originally set out to do.

Okay, so maybe you did go out on one date.  You remember the one back in February and as soon as it didn’t work out, you were done with dating!  “See, all men (or women) are like that!”  If that’s the case, then you may want to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself, if it’s really “them” or “me” attracting those qualities out of “them” on to “me”.  I know that sounds harsh but I just want to give you a wake-up call because if no one else pushes and irritates you, you’ll be in this same spot-same time next year!  I care about you and want you to have those things you desire whether it be marriage, long term partnership, happy life, etc.

But let me get to my real point.  Most of us go out on one date and we’re done.  We post our online dating profile and it collects dust.  We update our wardrobe one time per year and we’re done.  We smile at the opposite sex one time and we’re done.  We go to one event to look for desirable mates and we’re done.  In other words, we don’t put the work in to get the results we really want in life.  Life doesn’t reward “average” people.  Life rewards people that are loyal to their goals, committed to the task of achieving the goal and won’t take “no” (or closed doors) for an answer.

And by the way, being average or living a mediocre existence can actually cost you more in the long run.  For example, just think about the money you spend online or the time it takes just to prepare for a date and then multiply that by the number of years it’s going to take for you to find someone close to what you’re looking for when you’re only putting in the minimum amount of effort.  It’s like a bill that incurs interest!  It all adds up!

You see, we don’t put half as much work in towards our goals and wonder why it feels like we’re not going anywhere.  Successful people know that it takes more than wishful thinking to get whatever it is you want out of life.  For example, happily married couples don’t have it as easy as many would think.  They work hard to maintain a happy household and happy spouses who make up the foundation of their family structure.  As my parents would say, “you have to go above and beyond” to even come close to the things you want and desire.

So yeah…you may have to go out on more dates….go to more speed dating events…continuously update your online dating profile…read more self-help books…constantly update your wardrobe to ensure you are projecting the right image…go the gym often…etc…etc.  But this is what it takes to go where you want to go.  As the old saying goes, “no pain-no gain”.

Listen, I care about all of you.  I have already seen many of my clients date and get married because I had to push them out of their comfort zones.  And they all say, I didn’t like being pushed that hard but I needed that tough love and I’m glad you were there to provide it.  So if you don’t get nothing else from this article, just know that your dreams and goals are entirely achievable if you only put the work in to achieve them.  Stay committed to the end and believe in yourself!  Talk to others who are where you want to be.  And then enjoy the success you will have!

Good luck!

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